For many people the answer is a resounding no, the body language may say yes but the internal being says no. Learning can become to difficult and time consuming. Most feel secure in the repetitiveness, attempting change can have a traumatic affect, which most will just not attempt to do. They find comfort in the historical past no matter how bleak that past may have been, making excuses and even accelerating the issues even further. No matter the pain that it may cause, misery loves company as the old saying states. Only when the person reaches a point where the pain cannot be tolerated any longer will they even consider the idea of a change. The history of their lives come to a point where it cannot be tolerated any longer.

That is where the teacher can step in and begin to work. The process has to begin slowly accelerating as times passes. The student(ourselves) have to being to process the fact that all past history is not in our best interest. The teacher has to convey that to move on that the student has to examine what and why they are holding on to the past. What is it that makes this person if so secure with the pain and rejection. Only the student knows and they are the ones that have to look inside themselves and discover the answer. This is something that I read and posted within on of my groups and I think that it fits very well the the topic at hand.

Will The Teacher Appear?

There is an adage that goes,”when the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. For many of us life is that teacher. Good teachers not only help us learn new things, they also help us to let go of the old ideas and old behaviors.

Maybe we need to let go of our dependencies. Maybe letting go of the negative ideas of how we think of ourselves is what we need right now in our lives. Maybe it time to deal with the issues we refuse to acknowledge and let go of resentment and rage.

Maybe it time to let go of some of that sadness and grief we are holding within. To sit still for a long time and cry or scream as loudly as we can.

If and when we are open to listening and learning from our teachers,we will know what our next healing step needs to be. We will lighten our load because we know what to set free.

Stop.
Bless.
Release.

STOP – stop and observe my thoughts;
BLESS – the person or situation involved;
RELEASE – my need to control the situation or person.

There were times when I said “STOP” outLOUD to myself – several times – to interrupt my thought processes…

Bless – wasn’t too hard; but

ah, the RELEASE – now, that was the challenge. The more practice I got, the faster I could release it… until I could TOTALLY release it.
Finally realizing that what was being released was the psychological power/hold that person/situation still had over me – by virtue of my ruminations – made it easier.

Liz

Whenever I suspect someone might appreciate a physical hug, I will approach them and ask (sincerely) “May I have a hug?” I have yet to be refused or given a perfunctory hug. “Consider yourself (appropriately) hugged” is how I might end an e-mail to someone I would have hugged, had I been physically present.

To “touch” someone may simply involve non-judgmental, focused listening to them – a gift that is truly “priceless”, and ever so rare in our fast-paced, twittering world.

Even the Universe can “touch” us. After learning how to sense and work with energy, walking about on one bright, sunny day, I had the overwhelming sensation of “energy” swirling around and through me – coming from every direction and everything; unmistakable, invigorating, renewing energy. Wow! Much better than coffee, any day!

Souldancer, thanks for “touching” the lives of many who are (as we Episcopalians say): “Seen and unseen; known and unknown.”

Liz

P.S. Consider yourself “appropriately” hugged! :-*

You are right on in your observations of judging. Freeing oneself of the obligation to make decisions regarding the + or – of any and everything helps to focus one on what is and only what is, without clouding our “judge-mentality”.

Not to say that we cannot have opinions on things…

Liz

I see how this allows me to move through the day with more ease and grace. Judging things and putting label on things only cloud’s what is there so I see how things can come to me more fluently than they have been in the most recent past