Halloween night is certainly a night filled with all sorts of mind tricks focused on frightening our senses in some shape of form. True, any day presents ample material to scare us. What we read, see and hear on just about any medium (TV, web, radio, etc) seems to have a steady stream of things we’re supposed to worry about, feel guilty over or some other type life-draining activity. Try taking a week off of watching, reading or listening to ALL news! Observe what happens to your stress levels? Do they remain the same (or increase because you need your news fix)? Based on three decades of coaching severely stressed-out folks, it never fails to amaze me how much people willingly allow oceans of worry and mountains of guilt into their lives based on what they witness in 15 seconds (or less) on some news venue. As clients or students understand and engage one of the most powerful secrets our minds have, we ALL enjoy a much less stressful life!

Here’s a life-time mental trick for you!

Day Six: A Mind Trick – Choice!

Here’s a highly guarded secret with you. A secret most people don’t want you to know. A secret to fundamentally change the way you perceive worth on many, now and possibly forever.

Ready?

Here’s the secret.

Choice

• You choose what you think about.
• You choose what you see, watch, touch, taste or smell.
• You choose how to spend or share your personal worth (resources of any kind).
• You choose how you make changes in your life.

End of secret.

How much this revealed secret changes your desire to enjoy a healthy happy life depends largely on how much you’re willing to explore versus analyze or debate your ability to make choices. If you’re open to exploring this secret, you’ll enjoy this post. Explorers have more fun than debaters and analyzers, because they’ve come to know it’s NOT the destination that matters, it’s the journey that counts in life.

If you choose to analyze or debate (two powerful mind tricks) how choice plays a role in enjoying life, endless choirs of doubt and debate shall rise up to drown out this secret. That’s how it’s guarded so well If someone (including yourself) keeps you busy doubting or debating what you’re worth, do you think you’ll receive what you’re worth? To quiet the choirs of doubt and debate, kindly and thoughtfully reflect on this question: Who has to live with what you choose? The answer? EVERYONE!

Believe it or not, what you choose (or do not choose) changes every single person, place or thing on this planet. Don’t believe it? Think about how you feel the next time someone fully values you the best they can with what they have.

• Are you happy when someone pays you what you’re worth?
• When you’re happy, does your world seem to be a better place?
• When you’re happy, are you more likely to inspire happiness in others?
• When times are good, do you tend to feel good and want to share more of what you have?
• When you’re happy, do you find yourself giving and receiving more easily and gracefully?

Imagine how your happiness changes all sorts of people you may never ever meet. True and lasting change begins with what you feel If you don’t like what you’re hearing, THERE IS GOOD NEWS. You can CHOOSE to change your thoughts. You can choose to change what you believe. You can choose to change how you feel, both about yourself and about others. How you feel changes how you relate to the world.

Just imagine one small raindrop splashing on the surface of a perfectly still, almost mirror-like pond. Take a moment to really fix this image in your mind. See a perfectly still pond receiving one drop of rain at a time. Imagine all the ripples of each drop. If you’ve never watched how these ripples interact with each other, try it some time It’s simply beautiful. Your happiness is that raindrop. The ripples of that raindrop will eventually spread across the entire pond. While some ripples might seem almost impossible to see, they’re there. When you’re happy, your happiness ripples across the entire planet.

When you’re not happy, then what? All sorts of fears take over Don’t we have enough fear these days? How much of what you choose to live with is based on fear? Fear of failure? Fear of success? Fear of your past? Fear about the future? Keep up with this series and I’ll do my best to help dissolve fears one day, one step at a time. (Engage me privately to ramp-up this work on a personal level.)

Now, your turn! What’s your tricks to remember to explore more – versus analyze or debate? The more tricks we share, the more we all enjoy ways to end life-consuming mind tricks that enable worry, doubt, guilt and shame! Click into the comment box below and leave us a treat.

Last but not least, three more treats to consider.

Pay Me What I’m Worth:  Key Terms (tag cloud)

ethics, gratitude, health, integrity, love, money, power, property, reputation, respect, time, wisdom, worth

Have you ever wandered through a haunted house designed for Halloween night? Or maybe you’ve watched a movie, or play, where you subject yourself willingly to something you anticipate will scare you. Fun times, right? Really? How so? When you feel frightened do you feel less powerful? If you scare someone, do you feel more powerful?

If you recall from the power versus force article, genuine power if distinctly different from raw force. (Need a reminder on how power is different than force? Click this link to check that post.)

Day Three: Power Treats!

One of the most powerful treats to explore regarding the use of genuine ethical power, is to remember the word “AND.”

Isn’t it amazing how easy it is to think in simple binary terms? When scared, the shortest route to feeling safe often forces us to think simplistically. People who use power to bend us into binary thinking force us to choose from an all too short of a list. Think about this. Do you feel more powerful when you begin to see more options to any issue at hand?

The word AND ignites a powerful process known as brainstorming. The art of brainstorming requires us to see things from multiple angles NOTHING is too silly or outrageous in brainstorming. Something silly may lead to something extraordinarily wonderful. Try engaging the art of brainstorming the next time you feel uncomfortable because some one or something scares you. For example, you’re on the phone with a some type of official that seems all powerful and scary to you. The moment you feel powerless:

• ask, “So, can we review what my options are? “
• Have them run down the list.
• Once you review that list, ask them, “If roles were reversed, would you like these options? ”
  • If they answer, “No” then you’ve GOT them poised to start brainstorming.
  • If they answer “Yes” ask them which of these options would they choose and why?

Another aspect to the power connected to “AND” helps us see a glass half full more often AND invites us to think in terms of MORE versus less. As we move from lack-based thinking (living life feeling deprived and disadvantaged) to living a life where we’re amazed at how much there really IS already at hand, we feel more powerful!  How’s that old saying go? “Change your mind and you change your world!”

Remember to treat yourself the next time you feel tricked into making a choice from a short list of options. How? Remember your pal “AND” and you’ll find yourself feeling more empowered to make wiser choices each and every time.

Where did we find this powerful treat? Over the past three years hundreds of people have attended a wide variety of workshops and study groups on the topic of personal worth. It’s thrilling to watch people dissolve fears as they engage existing skills boo away guilt, worry, doubt or shame. Please enjoy our tricks and treats based on the ah-ha’s, oh-no’s and WOW’s recorded from multiple events!

AND as always , feel free to explore..

Pay Me What I’m Worth:  Key Terms (tag cloud)

ethics, gratitude, health, integrity, love, money, power, property, reputation, respect, time, wisdom, worth